Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Don't Hire the Best- A Must Read for Recruiters




Charles Darwin talked about survival of the fittest. “Fittest” did not have any definition apart from how the species react and absorb to the external environment around them. The more they adjust the better their chance of surviving the odds and thus they excel.

In the book “Don’t hire the best” Abhijit talked on the similar lines. Only difference being here the recruiter has to be the key person to identify the best fit for the present corporate environment and the job requirement.


Most interviewees on the chair have a tendency to “reject” and few go for traditional assessments like marks, percentages, degrees, brand names printed on resume or the way the interviewee communicates.

But the system of hiring is not a linear one. It is rather more complex. There can be many hiring errors. The perceptions and prejudice of the interviewer can affect the hiring. There can be cognitive bias in which our judgments of a person’s character can be influenced by our overall impression of him or her i.e. the halo effect. Examples of a film/ book being rejected several times and ultimately becoming a super success are many. Even Mr. Amitabh Bacchan was once told that he does not have the quality of becoming an actor and J K Rowling was rejected by many publishers.

So…the recruiter’s role here becomes more complex and important to make the right choice and evaluate the right fit of the candidate in the available role. Even few interviewers claim they have gone by their gut feeling and got the right man.

In the process of recruitment, the term “best” is mostly judged by the resume and the credentials, certificates. The traditional method of interview and the resume and designed to supplement the criteria on paper ignoring the practical side of it. Competencies are mostly ill-judged.  A person good in communication and the presentation might be a failure in execution and vice versa. The challenge is to find it out. Recruiter, most confidently hires one considering the best and he/she fails in the field.

Is the fault lying with the recruitment process? Abhijit tries to answer the question through his book.

Recruitment is one of the most important organizational processes and major part of organizational productivity depends on the right choice.

A right person at the right place ensures both lower employee turnover and higher engagement and productivity. To ensure the right hiring the selection should be broadly based on an assessment of skill & will & individual traits.

Structured interviews must focus not only on the question & answers method but also observation and analysis.  The challenge is whether there is a fit between the company's expectations and the personality and caliber of the interviewee.

The specialty of the book is that it is not based on the books, theories or experiments. It is broadly based on the experiences. Abhijit ‘s vast experience as a HR leader in various reputed companies like Wipro, Microsoft, PepsiCo, Colgate Palmolive and Tata Steel  has nourished the contents of the book.

Abhijit particularly talks about the hiring the best vs hiring the right fit.

Ultimately the recruitment results in the overall productivity of the company.

Abhijit includes case studies ranging from start-ups to large global corporate, and provides a comprehensive guide on how to keep the balance. Recruitments must be based on the company culture-requirements and the flexibility of the job role and the candidate, ot broadly on the Resume and the degrees.

As always, the flow was serene and amazing. As a first time entrant to a business book Abhijit (mostly popular for his fictions) has done a great job and proved that there  is no stereotypes when it comes to a natural writer.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

ज़िंदगी



कुछ सहर सा कुछ गाँव सा , कुछ धुप सा कुछ छाओं सा...
कुछ आयात  सा तोह कुछ आजान  सा...कुछ दिया सा कुछ लौ  सा 

ज़िंदगी देखो ना बिखरी पड़ी है...कुछ किरणों सा, कुछ  खुशबू सा...

रास्तों के मोड़ सा,  कुछ अनजान सा कुछ मुस्कान सा 
कुछ दर्द सा. कुछ प्यार  सा ...माँ की गोद सा, साहिल  की रेत सा..
लम्हा  सा कुछ तोह कुछ तनहा  सा..
कुछ सुकून सा कुछ जूनून सा 
 .
ज़िंदगी देखो न बिखरी पड़ी है...कुछ मन्नत सा कुछ जन्नत सा..

कुछ हिम्मत सा कुछ हकीकत सा 
कुछ दुआ सा कुछ फ़रियाद सा
कुछ कहानी सा कुछ सुहाना सा 

ज़िंदगी तोह बस यही है ....कुछ तेरी है कूछ मेरी है....
कुछ सपना  सा कुछ अपना सा...

ज़िंदगी देखो ना बिखरी पड़ी है...कुछ तेरा सा कुछ मेरा सा...!!

Bhooter Bhobishyat


I am a thorough believer of ghost. Though I m yet to meet one but the thing itself excites me and I am still afraid of darkness, still attracted to haunted houses and secretly try planchets (smiley).

And not to forget, a mystical attraction towards Bengali Literature…now a day’s translated Bengali books mostly been replaced by Bengali movies in my life, the excuse being the so called busy schedule….(though I call it the ‘rat race’…but I never stop running) So “Bhooter Bhobishyat” the name itself was enough to attract me to the theater. And believe me….it was sheer 2.5 hours rejoice for all my senses.
The opening was dramatic. Pace was smooth and simple….enough suspense to keep you glued. The concept was different. It’s about Ghost’s rehabilitation. A satire to modern man’s ambitious projects at cost of heritage, emotions and sentiments. Growing materialism and diminishing attachments. Commercialization of almost everything in the world we are staying right now and moreover our being ok about it.
It has its comic moments each better than the previous. Hilarious to the core and all makes sense.

And….my picks of the movie-

Kadali bala- The same old story of an actress of yesteryears, at the pick of success, non acceptance in the society. Hypocrisy of men, having the woman on bed but with no courage to have her by side. Subsequent frustrations and suicides. Stories not very much alien to our ears & It’s still there somewhere, today…..

Biplab- The Comrade, the so called naxalite, the game of power, politics & conspiracy, murders (encounters) and so on…very much here in everyday morning papaers.

The Young Guy (forgot the name)- The young blood and the hot blood. Rebels and their adjustment and existence dilemma. The different dimension altogether…the world of dreams, freedom & rebellion. And it has its price…..

The Young Gal (forgot the anme)- The conventional story of being Love struck then heartbroken followed by an emotional suicide.…it was there and it is still there

Darpan Roy- the Jamindar, the mindset and the rigidity to change, the hypocrisy and the loyalty to the British. Somewhere whispers the colonialism, the weak bureaucracy and the selfish and hollowness of the Indian dilemma during the British era…the time has changed (!!)

Others-The Social sides, the highs and lows, the love and hate and the co-existence of the souls together in harmony in spite of social and cultural distances.

Each gives a feel of an era, an inherent message, exclusive to its nature.

Going beyond, Ayan (Parambrata-I am a lil fan of this guy)- The new age ambitious filmmaker , the link between the two worlds. He gets the chance to amalgamate and make movie & gives a platform to the grievances of the ghosts.

Awesome screenplay, simple but powerful narration…& Nostalgic…YES!!

Another view point that’s knocking at my mind right now…..are we actually resistant to change? If yes then why should we or why should not we…..Or are we actually changing too fast and becoming too much materialistic to even imagine the time when human emotions were considered a quality and materialism a hated mindset….

People used to get satisfaction by mere presence of some little things and which now is a mirage even with all worldly possessions we relish.

Is it a rat race? A Mad race? & more over….Is it worth?

……..after all it all has its pros & cons!

See the movie and conclude!!

Sunday, April 10, 2011

....HENCE I DID NOT

The other day, I was surfing channels in the evening and got stuck to HBO as a very thrilling movie was being aired.

In between in many news channels I saw an old man, Mr. Anna Hazare announcing that his fast won’t end till he gets the proper notification from the govt. on the Joint Committee on the drafting of Jan Lokpal Bill.
I paused for a second but after all I was loyal to HBO. Its about corruption! The word I am very much familiar with and immuned to. It does no shock me. It does not shake me….not at all, trust me! Len den...hota hai, thodi bahut har jagah pe hota hai…kya badi baat hai? But I am not a victim of corruption.
Just that…. Only once I was asked for 1 lac to get admission in the university which I did not pay. Only once I had to use my bureaucrat father’s influence to get the marriage certificate and passport issued within a day, which otherwise would have taken months without paying bribe. Only once I was asked for Rs 2k by the police constable to settle an issue with the transporter who was asking for extra money for delivering the car. Only once I saw a friend getting a fake certificate by paying 1 lac to a particular university. He used it and doing job happily. (Strangely it reminded of fake pilot scam, I too travel in air) Did a chill run through your spine too?? I felt so… Only once I was asked by the police not to register any complaint for the mobile theft citing it as a petty issue. (Strangely I, at once can remember many more similar instances…how??) ……or may be more than just once I have faced similar issues.

So what? Itna toh chalta hi hai. I have been doing good throughout. I have got myself good degrees, my certificates and marksheets got me a sense of pride, I made my parents proud the day I was felicitated by the education minister of the state for being in the state topper’s list, I got awarded by the health minister of the state as the best story writer in the state, I got myself a good job, then I hopped for the next best…all without facing the whims and fancies of the system, without paying a bribe.

I am happily married and well settled in my cosy comfort zone, enjoying the best of my life, living in one of the posh areas of the city, eating out at restaurants, reading as many books as I can, holidaying every 6 months, I travel in flights, I frequent shopping malls almost every weekend, I get gifts from my pampering husband, parents, in-laws and friends, I spend the whole of summer in an air-conditioned car, air conditioned office, air conditioned malls and an air conditioned home. I can call pizza hut, dominos’ or any good eatery to order dinner, I have an expensive microwave to heat the food in late night, I have a double door refrigerator to get me chilled water, I have the latest model of aqua gurad to make to germ-free…..and the list goes on! All without being corrupted and all without facing any corruption. So I relished chicken curry when the 72 years old man was sitting at Jantar mantar without any food for four long days and I did not feel guilty.

I attended office, planned which movie to watch this weekend and concentrated on the employee compensation project which I have to submit to the professor-XLRI by 13th April. 13th April…!!! I heard it somewhere else too. Yes…the same old 72 years old man has announced Jail Bharo Andolan on the same date. But I have to concentrate on the project…. I have to get good marks.

My resume will weigh more and I can be much more salable in India Inc. Is not that important? How can I waste my precious time in such petty issues?? Jan Lokpal Bill… Whats that? Must be something to tackle corruption but why hell I should be bothered? At least as long as I am not affected. Who knows its not fuelled by any political intention? Who can guarantee its not being a media-spree? Who the hell on this earth can be so selfless to take this much of pain?? Anna Hazare?? The man who fought the second world war? Who lives in a temple, who donated all his earthly belongings for the welfare of people?? Who was awarded with padmasree? Who looks like a saint…a sacred soul?? Huh!! May be…! But even if it is something gandhian, something like freedom movement…..mujhe kya? Why should not I be concentrating on my mutton biryani recipie I found on Sanjeev Kapoor’s website? Oh yes…I saw few advertisement pop ups in many website to support Mr. Anna Hazare, requesting to give up one day’s food, to be a part of the movement but I closed all them. Bugging…!! I must plan my investments for this year. I must carefully finish writing my appraisal form (it’s the hike time after all). I must concentrate on the new property we are buying, I must concentrate on my health, yoga and pranayam taught by Baba Ramdev.

Well…I have heard Baba Ramdev too is supporting Mr. Anna Hazare…!! Ohh…nothing to be serious about it!! I get mails in my inbox. I get updates in my Facebook page, people adding anti corruption badges to their profile pictures, crying foul over the whole corruption issue, citing Mahatma Gandhi, Bhagat Singh, creating groups to support Anna ji, (ya…have read so much about Gandhiji, Bhagat Singh, nice stories of bravery, patriotism…) What the hell…!! How come they have so much time to spare? I am uploading the pictures of my last vacation in facebook. I am replying to the comments I received on them. I am joining the groups for the winning cricket team of India. I am posting pictures of M S Dhoni, Yuvraj Singh. Ohh yess…World cup! What a win by Indian Cricket Team!!! I went out on 2nd April 2011 at mid of the night to celebrate the WC victory of Indian Cricket Team. I was amazed to see the significantly slow city being thrilled to such an extent. I saw people coming out with their families, kids, with the tri-colour, many in their night suits, many with drums, many shouting, screaming, dancing. I was amazed because for the first time I was seeing such a spontaneous outflow of happiness, celebration & togetherness on one common (national) issue.

I was happy to be a part of the madness, the celebration. Ummm…Should I have been thrilled the same way in the mid-night of 8th of April,2011 again?? When it was announced that the Govt agreed to all the demands of Mr. Anna Hazare who was on indefinite fast for the Jan Lokpal Bill?? (one common (national) issue….is it??) Was it the same way people would have felt on the eve of 15th of Aug, 1947? Should I have gone out and celebrate this victory too? How…how silly...!! But was somewhere my inner self was rejoicing….?? A sense of victory was prevailing all over?? If at all yes then why?? May be because Anna ji declared it as the victory of democracy, as the victory of people….may be as my own victory!!!! But I must suppress the feeling. Yes…I must! I was never a hardcore victim of corruption, I have always managed by paying just few bucks, by doing some jugaad, by making some phone calls, by using some references. I am ready to do the same for the rest of my life and for the generations to come, I feel so happy and safe in my comfort zone….in my selfish shell. Then why the hell I should go out shouting against corruption?

Why on the earth I should go and join Mr. Anna Hazare? Why the hell I should leave all my comfort and embrace the pain of transition my country facing today?

I am deaf to the wake up call, I am blind to the sun-shine, I am lame to take a step forward, I am heartless, I am hopeless. I have stopped dreaming long back...i have stopped living too. I now have a dead conscience which tells me every now & then that i should not…………………………………………HENCE I DID NOT!!!

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The Obama-nised neo-imperialism!

Is it for Humanity? civilians?
…as Mr. Obama crying out?

Why Libya? Is not humanity in more need in Japan today?
Do I see beyond?

Why they have always been in look out for opportunity to get involved in the affairs of oil rich countries?

History has the evidences…!
Iraq, Afganistan and now Libya.

Its simple…its OIL! The scarce hence the costliest resource on the planet earth.

Controlling oil resources has been on the priority list of American administration always. Geore W Bush-Senior, Geroge W Bush-Junior and now Mr. Obama.

Iraq is a glaring example of american neo imperialism

USA as we know it…is the self proclaimed may be the widely accepted sole super-power in the world. Reason, Imperialism…more correctly neo-imperialism. I hate this word. May be because I belong to a country which has been the victim of it for ages and though I am born to a free India I still feel like living under the shadows of imperialism! It has its effects…we lose whatever we call ours and moreover it leaves scars, of hatred, of sufferings, of suppressions!

Now lets come back to Libya! A civil war against the tyrant Md Gaddaffi all of a sudden has become an international affair. All of a sudden become a center of attraction for Mr. President.

“Gaddaffi must go…civilians must be protected”- US cries foul!

Is that it?
Is it not the oil rich country with abundant wealth that has seduced USA. Does not US has its own set of greed and of course ruthless selfishness to intervene in Libyan affairs? I feel so…
Obama faces criticism from his own mates too. No consent of American congress was taken before attacking Libya.
Political analysts note abundant signs that even before the Obama administration intervened in Libya, the American public had become weary of war. Polls suggest as many as two out of three Americans no longer believe America's involvement in Afghanistan is worth the cost.
Americans are likely to worry, that the United States will be stuck with part of the bill for rebuilding Libya, as it has been for Iraq, Afghanistan, and to a lesser extent in Pakistan and Egypt. And U.S. officials are still unsure if the anti-Gadafi forces are necessarily pro-America and pro-democracy. (Sources)

US cites UN approval but no resolution of the U.N. justifies violating the U.S. Constitution.
Then why?

I see one prominent reason behind!
Mr. Barack Hussain Obama, who is now serving US as the President for the third year has not been lived upto expectations. No promises are now seen being true and hence he gathered criticisms across the globe. The In October 2009, Obama was named the 2009 Nobel Peace Prize laureate, the same year he took over as the US President. But amidst thorough criticism and cynicism. May be now he wants to prove the worth of being a nobel laureate, may be trying to disguise the tyranny with a tag of an international peacemaker. The desperation has made him leave his mates behind!!

Reason two:
Political analysts say Obama could benefit politically if Gadafi is quickly ousted, or if the military effort to protect civilians and impose a no-fly zone produces a quick and relatively bloodless resolution. But if Kadafi clings to power in Tripoli, and the conflict degrades into a brutal stalemate, criticism is likely to mount.

Reasons may be abundant! But the US attack on Libya is unconstitutional and despicable. India regrets attacks…

Libya has never been a threat to US and attacking a sovereign country with guise of humanity and etc can not be justified by any reason.

Is it the start of US invasion into the Middle-East countries? Another episode of bloodshed and cruelty?
I am not advocating for Md Gadaffi…he is no innocent!
But I condemn the US attacks too! In no ethics bloodshed is acceptable! In no situation killing is admissible..

You can not stop violence with violence!
Hence I condemn it Mr. Obama…hope u too will one day!

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Tanu weds Manu

Each time I see him….my heart skips a beat!

…..and I fall in love with him allover again (with due permission from my hubby dearest)!

Well…as many of my age-mates my love for Maddy too started from the day the movie “Rehna hai tere dil me” released!

My love did not perish even if I hated the movie 13B (I watched it in an almost empty theatre only coz of Maddy).

…and now again he came up with his charisma and won over Tanu!

Yes..”Tanu weds Manu” tasted like a freshly baked cake with plenty of cream mixed icing sugar on the top of it.

The movie was light, fast paced and topped with the hardcore Indian flavour.

When it comes to Kangana you will love her inspite of hearing lot many beeps throughout. The raunchy, rebel with an out of control vocal cord Tanu was worth watching.

Manu, the Foreign returned, Mr. Right, the saintly, the perfect……was too much in love with the weird Tanu that he went to unimaginable extent of sacrificing and finally or may be luckily won the race.

We have probably seen the same kindda love stories in many bollywood movies but the specialty about this one is the TREATMENT!

Punjab, UP, Bihar, Delhi and London…situational comedy and the real Indian flavour!

From a typical UP-ian household, bride-seeing with lot of chai and samosas, 3 tiar train journey, Punjabi band baja, Jimmy Shergil with a Royal Enfield, simple T-shirts of Madhavan, Pappi and a sweet small appearance of Ravi Kishan beating up Manu at the railway station itself made movie quite a darling. I heard giggles, applaud and whistles in the auditorium all across the movie…that shows the success.

As per cons, the characters seemd little bit confused at the end as the director made them to be! The story lost its free-flow and made lil bit of blunder in the climax scene. But the whistles throughout finally made it pardonable and declared it to be a HIT!

To give you a happy-happy hangover…it has a happy ending too!! :-) :-)

U wanna relax, have fun while munching pop corns and sipping pepsi in this weekend?? Then “Tanu weds Manu” is a must for you …..!!! N’joyy 

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

…the gen-next to be hanged??

Well…I am not anti-islam, not a fundamentalist, not even any social activist. I am not anything, literally anything to have any say in the religions, beliefs, Bhagwad Gita, Bible or Quran

I am just a human being. I live on this earth. I eat, breathe, laugh, and cry as anyone else in this world does. I feel too….

I feel the pain, I feel the emotions, I feel the fear….i have this unique quality of FEELING as any other human beings which separates humans from other creatures who reside on the planet.

So I feel the trauma, the disgust, the panic and the other side of it.

Mohammed Ajmal Amîr Kasâb- The name is quite familiar, quite hated and quite in news among the Indians. Why….because he with his troop invaded and killed many in Mumbai on 26. December, 2008.

Kasab was born in Faridkot village in the Okara District of Punjab, Pakistan. His father is a dahi puri vendor while his elder brother, Afzal, works as a laborer in Lahore. He has two sisters as well. The village, not quite developed must have lacked even the basic amenities of life, forget about education, employment and beyond.

Born in 13 July 1987, 22 years old Kasab when he dropped in the Bay of Arabic Ocean along with other mates, to KILL, must not have been carrying the similar instincts since birth. No one does….

In 2005, an 18 years old Kasab, had asked for new clothes on Eid, but his father could not provide them, which made him angry. He left home after a fight with his father. A temper tantrum most of us face as teenagers. We too fight, shout and cry. He left home and then became involved in petty crime, soon moving on to armed robbery.

The criminal instinct of the guy was easily picked up and fuelled by the militant group Lashkar-e-Taiba and had been sent to kill Indians, the so called enemy of Pakistan.

Tremendously trained mind of Kasab did not show even any remorse. What could have been injected into his mind? What could have been made him so very ruthless? Is it JIHAD…the purpose they were killing for?? Well… A motivated Kasab had no Islam or no Jihad in his mind but just Rs 150,000,which he was killing for. By which he might have dreamt of buying new clothes for his family on Eid, or starting up a new business and getting a decent living.

A 18 years old boy, least educated, least exposed to the outside world…had the only understanding of JIHAD that, "it is about killing and getting killed and becoming famous and make allah proud". Hence he Killed!


Kasab did not know any verses from the Quran that described Jihad, In fact he did not know much about Islam or its tenets.

He confessed: "We were told that our big brother India is so rich and we are dying of poverty and hunger. My father sells dahi wada on a stall in Lahore and we did not even get enough food to eat from his earnings. I was promised that once they knew that I was successful in my operation, they would give Rs 150,000, to my family,".

He was even ready to switch loyalties and said "If you give me regular meals and money I will do the same for you that I did for them," he said.

Now as he is caught and the severity of his crime is proved…we should get him Life Sentence… we should hang him, we may opt for any of the severe sentence for him…WHATEVER!!

But the question still remains unsolved…WHAT MADE KASAB CHOOSE THIS?

Did he choose this himself? Yes…but if would have been trained otherwise would he had chosen this path? Don’t we still have the concept of REHABILITATION?

When the guys of his age-group are going to college, browsing internet, enjoying music, masti, dance, watching this world cup, munching pop corns, shouting for his own country, doing anything and everything that a youngster does…if ever Kasab would have got even few of these things would he have been involved in such a crime??

If someone would have tried to put books in his hands instead of guns would not he had been tried to think twice over his decision of joining Laskar e Taiba??

If someone would have tried to put the real morality, values that the Quran preaches in Kasab’s mind, would not he have been tried to think twice before killing?

I feel…I feel the agony, the helplessness!

Is it Kasab who is the culprit or broader mass that have created a Kasab??

They pick up young, inject murder to their minds, send them to kill and finally let them die…all these @ Rs 15,0000 and a hope of getting famous. What are they doing to their gen-next? How killing to such an intensity be justified in any religion or in any morality?

Is that what they want to do with their generation? Is that they want to make out of their youngsters? Is that the government of the country has for its people? Is hanging one Kasab enough? Should not they hang the concept of Jihad, Militancy? Should not they stop producing more Kasabs?

If no, I can do nothing but just pity their generations to come…..may be some day we have to hang the gen-next!!

….and somewhere I read Kasab was trained by the ex-army officers of PAKISTAN!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

" Oh Arundhati"

I read now a days a lot about Arundhati Roy, not for another booker prize this time. I read she has become a separatist and blindly supporting Kashmir cut off.

A lot of chaos over her arrest, punishment etc etc….

Well, I am really not very happy to see all these happening to a writer. But again I don’t really agree to her statements about Kashmir either.

In the speech delivered, Arundhati Roy mentioned that Kashmiris have to decide whether they want to be with or get separated from “bhookhe-nange Hindustan where more than 830 million people live on Rs 20 per day only” and then made much of them.

I see two angles of this statement.

  • . Its high time that the decision have to be taken about Kashmir . Do or Die. All chaos happening in the beautiful valley these days should come to an end and the decision should be based on “what majority of Kashimiris want.”
  • . Arundhati blindly follows the separatists and differ with Hindustan.

But these two angles do not suffice the fact that India should let Kashmir free and independent. Secondly, When Kashmir can not survive as an independent state and either has to be merged with Pakistan or remain with India I don’t think Pakistan is a in any way better state than bhookha- nanga Hindustan.

Arundhati says, as per history Kashmir was never a part of India. Well, Kashmir was never a part of Pakistan either. India holds that the Instrument of Accession of the State of Jammu and Kashmir to India, signed by the Maharaja Hari Singh (erstwhile ruler of the State) on 26 October 1947, was completely valid in terms of the Government of India Act (1935), Indian Independence Act (1947) and international law and was total and irrevocable.

1972 Simla Agreement between Prime Minister Indira Gandhi of India and Zulfiqar Ali Bhutto of Pakistan, it was agreed that neither country would seek to alter the cease-fire line in Kashmir, which was renamed as the Line of Control".

Numerous violations of the Line of Control have occurred, including the infamous incursions by insurgents and Pakistani armed forces at Kargil leading to the Kargil war.

A country, which can not respect the law, the pact, the faith, and the country which stands over the 50 crore donation by India during partition (history tells), now cries foul over kashmiris. Funny…is not it!

Now, lets come to what Kashmiris want??

Before that, with reference to History, who are the true kashmiris?

And even before that what is Kashmir?

The very name Kashmir is said to be derived from Kashyapa, one of the seven Rishis in Hindu mythology (See Etymology of Kashmir.). Kashmir's association with Hinduism is very old. Most Kashmiris are devout Shaivites, however many Kashmiri families who had migrated into other Indian territories have been ardent Vaishnavites as well. Kashmir is home to some of the holiest shrines in Hinduism like Amarnath, Kheer Bhawani, Shrine of Sharada, Shankaracharya Mandir, Hari Parbat, and Zeethyar.

Before Persecution by Islamic Rulers the kashmiri pundits were the native of the said land. A large number of persecuted Kashmiri Pandit families were forced to migrate to the plains in the early fifteenth century during the reign of Sikandar Butshikan, and in the late sixteenth century during the reign of Aurangzeb.

Then the muslims became dominant in that part of India.

400,000 Kashmiri Pandits, constituting 99% of the total population of Hindus living in Muslim majority area of the Kashmir Valley, were forcibly pushed out of the Valley by Muslim terrorists, trained in Pakistan, since the end of 1989. They have been forced to live the life of exiles in their own country, outside their homeland, by unleashing a systematic campaign of terror, murder, loot and arson.

Now the few people left in the beautiful valley, fuelled by the extremists shout over separation of Kashmir. Thanks to Geelanis and Roys.

Pakistan was created in 1947. As per History again, the now Pakistan stands on the 50 crores donated by Indian Govt after separation cries foul over Kashmir.

The Indian constitution which gives Arundhati the right to express has given a special status to J&K also just to minimize the chaos and let the peace prevail. It has been treating the citizens same way as the other citizens of the country.

Shah Faesal, this years IAS topper is a Kashmiri who will be working as a part of the main stream of Indian Government.

A majority of Kashmiris across country are well educated, well placed and are in the main-stream. Even in my workplace I have some Kashmiri colleagues, well mannered and good performers. They too respectfully salute the Indian flag on 15th of August every year.

The few I know don’t seem to complain being called an Indian.

After few long years there was a fair election in the state. NC won and formed govt as any other states of the country.

Syed Ali Shah Geelani, could not stand the feel of forthcoming peace in the air and fuelled violence and anti India protest.

Few more deaths? Few more political dramas?

Well, we all know that Kashmir is controversial. By seeing the Pakistani attitude it seems no peace in the valley atleast for next few decades. But giving Kashmir to Pakistan will be like giving your own child to someone really undeserving.

So, my dear Arundhati, I know you have the right to express your mind but please be bit more responsible while talking about the most sensitive issue of your own beautiful country. The country, where you are born, which has given you your education, bread and butter, recognition and moreover the right to speak your so called mind in public and even to the chance to defend the rubbish.

I am more than sure you will never migrate to Pakistan even if you strongly believe that this bhooka- nanga Hindustan is not the right place for you and you deserve a better country like Pakistan to live in.

So, please stop non sense and use your rights in a right way!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Inception..!

Applauds…

A wonderful concept, great visuals and a great movie.

A dream thief, an idea implantation, dream within a dream, locked memories and thus all combined its INCEPTION.

I had entered the cinema with a lil expectation of extraordinary. But I fell in love with the movie, the concept and the experience.

My hubby, a man who least understands movies and lacks interest in the whole terminology called cinema, was too glued to INCEPTION….miracle simply!

Suspense, romance, bit humor and great visuals as any other best running commercial movie, but the whole stealing did the ultra fresh concept and great screen play.

The parallel story of the dead wife of Cobb and her occupancy of maximum of Cobb’s subconscious is just adds to the beauty and thrill of the story beautifully.

The revelations are also well timed and make the audience glued so much that there was a pin drop silence in the auditorium.

A bit complicated movie for a part of audience especially in India, but once a man starts understanding it cannot leave the seat till the end.

A movie worth watching twice…

My Rating: * * * * *

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Byomkesh Bakshi..!!

Saw a movie!!

Nah…seeing a movie is not the news!

But the specialty was it being a BENGALI MOVIE…

Yes…I saw a Bengali movie in a jam packed multiplex for the first time and I found that I quite understand the language now a days being so much non familiar to it.(thanks to my Kolkata stay).

Accompanied by hubby whose understanding of the language is as remote as a bengali’s understanding of Tamil or Arabic. (had to give him a brief about the happenings every quarter).

Still we opted for it becoz the name was magnetic….BYOMKESH BAKSHI!!

Remember the DD 1 block buster in nineties ….protagonist being played by Rajit Kapoor!! Was no it your favorite too…!!

Kolkata has decent number of multiplexes and theaters and its quite enough for Bengali movie goers….but surprisingly every time I tried to book the tickets for this particular movie I was offered the front row seats which prolonged my wait to watch the movie. Movie was a HIT.

Finally…on Monday I got the tickets in the last moment and watched.

The movie starts with a scene of riots betwn Hindus and Muslims in Kolkata city in early sixties.

Post independence after-shocks.

A lady approaches Byomkesh with apprehensions about his adopted son’s safety and later a murder mystery, cool revelations throughout and finally a solved case. (Won’t reveal much…pls watch the movie to experience the mystery)
A new Byomkesh (Abir) handsome and cool enough to match the character, Ajit (Saswata) was good too as a companion and narrator.

Other characters did decent jobs and most important part of the movie is the ability to make the audience glued till the end. The look of the movie was matching the look of sixties. The riot angle was rightly put to give the movie a serious and thought provoking base.

Not too many fussy characters, unnecessary songs, drama or non-effective suspense makes the movie clean, simple and effective.

At the end the movie seemed a bit predictable (may be just that I guessed the end rightly), Nonibala’s sleeveless blouses were a bit out of place, Satyabati’s ( Byomkesh’s wife) character could have been used in a better way in the movie, with all these little drawbacks it was quite a treat for the audience.
The movie has a balanced story line, proper proportion of suspense, damp of humour, good acting, and an overall FRESHNESS!

After Santosh Sivan’s “Before the Rains” I was for the first time felt satisfied with a movie…..the movies in between were simply chaos!!

Good Work Anjan Dutta Ji…..We don’t mind expecting a Byomkesh Bakshi-Dwitiya!!

Thursday, August 12, 2010

The Bliss...!!

Huh..!!

Crazy days…..

Yes, I am talking about my post marriage days...

They say it turns you to be more responsible and mature becoz u start a family altogether being the heart and soul of it. May be its true. But responsibility brings chaotic schedules too. Days begin at 6AM with a healthy morning walk and goes on with so many activities. Breakfast, office, lunch box, subzi mandi, cooking a bit, maid management and of course adapting new people in the day to day activities. New people includes people, of course other than the husband ;-)

Marriage brings change….lots of them!!

A late riser like me wakes up at 6, a hardcore non veggie like me munches on veggies almost four days a week, a tomboy like me who hates ornaments, now a days wears bangles (may be slick single ones) and mangalsutra and like wise so many….

No, I am not writing about my own changes in life style, but trying to look at it from a wider prospect.

Marriage, especially in India changes a girl’s life so much. May be for me its just about little things but in many cases it’s a complete transformation. A girl who leaves the very known and well adapted environment of 23-24 years has to adapt to a completely new environment where she has least amount of comfort level.

May be few are lucky like me to have a supporting husband and not too demanding in laws, and thanks to my never say die attitude and adaptive nature I am now not too alien to the environment only after 2 and half months of marriage. But there are many girls who are not as lucky as the few.

Here, I remember few instances where one of my cousins died in mysterious circumstances only after few months of marriage at her in law’s house (it was a love marriage and courtship period was of 2 years), a girl in neighbourhood was thrown away by her in laws after 6 months of marriage just becoz they did not like her (though the engagement period was of 1 year), the girl complained attempt of murders in disguises many a times by her in laws. Another girl got divorced by her IT engg husband just becoz he caught her talking over phone at 11.30 in night (he did not even enquire who she was talking to).

It takes few hours to get married with a day of social celebration. But It changes the lives of the girls for ever. What will happen to the girls I have cited above?? Can they ever lead a normal life?? Can they ever face the world outside, stand and say ‘IAM JUST ME, I HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO LOOK UP AND WALK”. May be never….
For what?? Just becoz someone else decided about their lives and said u r of no use so u should be treated like a garbage…..u can never have self esteem, self confidence and u can never be a part of this normal society….

I understand it more when I myself went through the transformation…

What about the mental trauma, the disghust, the fear??

When I bump into such shocking instances specially about near and known ones, I am forced to think that “Aisa mere sath hota toh kya hota”, I look at my husband and think “yeh mere sath aisa karte toh kya hota” . Being married in a different state and different culture I think even more….

Marriage is a bond, a beautifully crafted social institution to make life more meaningful. Why people relate it with dowry, honour, ego and what they get by ending up in doing such nasty deeds?

Wake up girls….
Bbefore landing up into the most precious and important decision of your life, think a thousand times and enter into the married life to live life more beautifully, not to end it brutally.

I am happy that I am back to my most favorite activity i.e. books and blogging almost after 4 months. (Thanks to my husband, who understands the need of these mental foods to keep me going, thus makes space and supports for it). Its such a stressbuster……..

It feels great being the self even after so many changes around!!

I wish life to be as beautiful as it is today and to be more beautiful for the girls who are not blessed enough with this bliss!!

I wish the souls to rest in peace whose life has brutally been ended up with this beautiful transition of life…

I wish, not a single girl should miss the bliss and not a single soul should fall prey of this.

Be happiness prevail EVERYWHERE!!

AMEN….!!

Saturday, June 12, 2010

My Wedding Invitation (23.05.2010)

A serene and beautiful moment where life stands still and celebrates the “MOMENT OF TOGETHERNESS”

….that is “MARRIAGE”!!

I am happy to announce the arrival of that blessed moment in my life and take the immense pleasure of inviting you to the blessed occasion of my Marriage Ceremony on 23.05.2010 (Sunday).

Please bless us with your kind presence at the following venue.

Your presence, trust me, will make us immensely happy!!

Venue:
Flourish India Farmhouse
On Bramhagiri Road
Puri, Orissa

Awaiting You..
Debashreeta (Shree)

Thursday, April 29, 2010

My third visit to “MAA”

In continuation of the very first visit to Maa (written already abt it) the third visit was too successfully completed. Skipped writing about the second one coz that was a kind of thanks giving trip for a successful completion of one of my very much worldly desires!! (a mere mortal human still I am)

The place was quiet as always. Maa was on the cement throne in discussion with various devotees, wiping away the pain and worries. The big tree (still don’t know its kind) was efficient enough to give all hundreds of devotees the shelter and shield from the hot and roaring sun.

Few people from remote areas had come that day, mostly adivasis including a 24 years old young man, mentally unbalanced, violent and unpredictable…few people ill physically and one sophisticated family from Delhi.

I had a talk with the group from Delhi. As per them the marriage of their daughter had been finalized in a miraculous way as predicted by Maa. The enchanted father did thank Maa with his tears.

A simple meal of plain red rice, plain daal and vegetable curry was offered to all of us. All sat under the tree in a same line with leaf plates and had the mid day meal.

All went well….

We all went to a hall type room with cement flooring and ashramites put some bed sheets on the floor and all of us made sit/ sleep there.

All were simple and serene….no discrimination on basis of caste, class, creed, no dikhawa of money, power or spirituality….any one is welcome there!!

A great experience altogether and the day long hectic visit to the great lady is worth !!

Sunday, April 25, 2010

APARTMENT…

Slow paced, predictable story, nil suspense, (not a single sequence could make the audience bite nails) made the movie just watch able. Poor duplication of any Hollywood movie cannot always successfully be indianised and presented.

Tanushree was just ok so as Rohit and Anupam Kher. Neetu Chnadra did a decent job… Movie may get a good response in the first week, as there is no such movie released in competition and second reason being the Jag Mundra tag. People will be going expecting thrill…

The look of the movie can be confused to be a supernatural one and pull a horror freak audience.

Over all a time pass movie!!

Saturday, April 24, 2010

After long I am back to blogging!! Days had been hectic and somewhat lazy too….

No access to Internet had been a boon in some senses but I missed it in many senses too. Being Internet savvy makes you addicted to certain mental food, non-compliance to those leads to hunger that generally appeases once I get the google page open in front of me and my fingers dancing on the key board producing a musical tak-tak.

My first introduction to the world of INTERNET is not much older. I got to be attached with it only about 10 years back…but now it is ruling over almost 10 hours a day of mine. I wonder how people managed in the non-internet era…huh!!

I was reading a book of Manoj Das (the one n only) last week in a lazy afternoon. He had cited few instances of his childhood, i.e. in 1930 ‘s when they used to walk for the whole day to reach few miles and few people had access to monthly/ weekly news paper and the post man used to be the highly respected and most wanted man.

Kolkata, used to be the dreamland for many.

Even my maternal grandfather who was a jamindaar (landlord) of his time got the most precious and grand things as gifts from his father in law at the time of marriage with my granny. Those were : a bi-cycle, gold buttons, a torch light, a radio and a wrist watch…huhhh!!!

Can we imagine now a days???

But yes, the serenity of the life of people of that time used to be exclusively beautiful. The love, respect, togetherness, bonding, happiness over little things and the crystal clear heart of people were priceless. The soft breeze, mango trees, ponds…………

Alas….I can not rewind time!!

I am now back to my internet world with a handy mobile switched on day and night, still when I think about the Manoj Das Stories, when I think about my Nana ji and when I think about my village I miss something badly…I MISS LIFE!!!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Clash of the Titans: Clash of views, reviews (i liked it though)

Medusa, I used to fantasize and afraid of as a kid, used to be afraid of being turned into stone and used to imagine Persius coming for my rescue!!

“Clash of the titans” hence was a treat for my childhood memories. I loved the visual effects...thanks to 3D technology. Similar to many mythological or fantasy bollywood movies it too was full of action and mystery.

Sorry can not put many good words as the script for a common man seemed confusing and monotonous. Some twists and turns could have make the movie more exciting and a pinch of romance was missing.

Only good thing that attracted the audience was the visual effects.

I don’t blame the low attendance in the auditorium.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Hunted by the ghost of boredom- Hum tum aur ghost!!

A sheer boredom throughout.

Neither it was funny nor scary not even love story types…not an emotional drama too.

Kabeer has tried to put them altogether, and hence the real taste is missing. The storyline lost continuity, so as the humor. The movie starts with a bad note itself.

Seeinng ghosts, being in love with Dia, Sandhya (as a friend), problems of Kapoor, Ali and Carole (the ghosts), the psychiatrist and the nun who gave an angel to Warsi at the end are not able to be linked together to form an understandable storyline.

Sandhya Mridul has been totally wasted in the movie (I wonder why such an actor agreed to do the movie?), Boman is partially wasted (Though one can see his serious attempts to make the movie lively).

Poor songs and poor romance too….

The ghosts are neither funny nor scary and it can not be called a psychological drama either.

Why Arshad why??? Why did u waste so much of money, time, energy and talent?? U deserved a much better script and much better compliments dear….

Well Done Benegal..

A nice neat movie finally in cinemas…

Yes, talking about “Well done abba”

The name Shyam Benegal, makes audience expect much more from the movie and he has not disappointed at all.

The simple and neat storyline, evergreen Boman Irani and Benegal on director’s seat altogether have given Indian cinema quite a nice output.

To some, the movie may seem as any serial of Doordarshan, in nineties…but, I bet almost all of us will agree with the serenity of those serials and those were no doubt beautiful.

In the midst of action, horror, torture, boredom love, sex and dhokha a drop of dew is “Well done Abba”.

Movie touches many aspects of society, system and simplicity with a touch of humor. The system can be questioned effectively in a humorous way too, without aggression.

Minisha has done a decent job. Boman as usual is the heart of the movie.
Movie with a message, A MUST WATCH!!

A fresh book and a freshh writer: Pathik's 7 Love Stories

A fresh book on the counters…

“7 love stories in the prime of life”- by Awaneesh Jha popularly known as “Pathik”.

It is compilation of 7 fresh and different love stories. The writer being young deserves a pat on his shoulders for publishing seven books, most of them being critically acclaimed and thoroughly philosophical, at this tender age.

The new one seems a bit lighter in content as well as in expression. It will attract mostly youngsters. The reader would like the simplicity in language and expression.

All the stories in the book are different from each other yet connected through one string i; e. LOVE! That is the beauty of the book.

I am personally very happy with the circulation and response of the book and I wish all the very best to Pathik for his future endeavours.

chalte raho pathik...!!!

Friday, March 26, 2010

We all have/had a love story: Ravin too had!!

Love, the very word conquers the world.

For People who don’t believe in love and for people who thoroughly believe in love, some way or other, love becomes the vital and only center of existence by DEFAULT!!.

Ravin (the protagonist) never longed for love; he only wanted to get married. Typically, he registered himself in matrimony site. But, ironically, love happened to him and he was so beautifully indulged to the deepest of his heart with KHUSHI, the newfound damp of happiness in his life.

Love happened this way and marriage was on cards.

But…

Life gives unexpected blows at times, especially when u r at the top of anything. Same happened and on that fateful day Khushi left Ravin for ever in a road accident.

The obviously broken and shattered Ravin, finally paid the tribute to his love though the book, the beautiful outcome.

The very reason behind the birth of the book leaves an emotional impact on the reader even before he starts reading the book. That is the deserving boon for the book’s selling.

Simple language and serene expressions glues the reader with the book and Ravinder has been very honest with his narration with the course of incidents.

The book has got a huge fan following, mostly the youngsters who somehow identify themselves with the character, incidents and cute-cozy love story.

On the other side, the narrations and languages could have been lil mature. The story seemed predictable at the end. But being the very first creation of Ravinder, this book deserves applauses and of course a queue of readers awaiting the next one, the sequel…
Of course all wants to know what happened to Ravin after that………..!!??