The Bliss...!!

Huh..!!

Crazy days…..

Yes, I am talking about my post marriage days...

They say it turns you to be more responsible and mature becoz u start a family altogether being the heart and soul of it. May be its true. But responsibility brings chaotic schedules too. Days begin at 6AM with a healthy morning walk and goes on with so many activities. Breakfast, office, lunch box, subzi mandi, cooking a bit, maid management and of course adapting new people in the day to day activities. New people includes people, of course other than the husband ;-)

Marriage brings change….lots of them!!

A late riser like me wakes up at 6, a hardcore non veggie like me munches on veggies almost four days a week, a tomboy like me who hates ornaments, now a days wears bangles (may be slick single ones) and mangalsutra and like wise so many….

No, I am not writing about my own changes in life style, but trying to look at it from a wider prospect.

Marriage, especially in India changes a girl’s life so much. May be for me its just about little things but in many cases it’s a complete transformation. A girl who leaves the very known and well adapted environment of 23-24 years has to adapt to a completely new environment where she has least amount of comfort level.

May be few are lucky like me to have a supporting husband and not too demanding in laws, and thanks to my never say die attitude and adaptive nature I am now not too alien to the environment only after 2 and half months of marriage. But there are many girls who are not as lucky as the few.

Here, I remember few instances where one of my cousins died in mysterious circumstances only after few months of marriage at her in law’s house (it was a love marriage and courtship period was of 2 years), a girl in neighbourhood was thrown away by her in laws after 6 months of marriage just becoz they did not like her (though the engagement period was of 1 year), the girl complained attempt of murders in disguises many a times by her in laws. Another girl got divorced by her IT engg husband just becoz he caught her talking over phone at 11.30 in night (he did not even enquire who she was talking to).

It takes few hours to get married with a day of social celebration. But It changes the lives of the girls for ever. What will happen to the girls I have cited above?? Can they ever lead a normal life?? Can they ever face the world outside, stand and say ‘IAM JUST ME, I HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO LOOK UP AND WALK”. May be never….
For what?? Just becoz someone else decided about their lives and said u r of no use so u should be treated like a garbage…..u can never have self esteem, self confidence and u can never be a part of this normal society….

I understand it more when I myself went through the transformation…

What about the mental trauma, the disghust, the fear??

When I bump into such shocking instances specially about near and known ones, I am forced to think that “Aisa mere sath hota toh kya hota”, I look at my husband and think “yeh mere sath aisa karte toh kya hota” . Being married in a different state and different culture I think even more….

Marriage is a bond, a beautifully crafted social institution to make life more meaningful. Why people relate it with dowry, honour, ego and what they get by ending up in doing such nasty deeds?

Wake up girls….
Bbefore landing up into the most precious and important decision of your life, think a thousand times and enter into the married life to live life more beautifully, not to end it brutally.

I am happy that I am back to my most favorite activity i.e. books and blogging almost after 4 months. (Thanks to my husband, who understands the need of these mental foods to keep me going, thus makes space and supports for it). Its such a stressbuster……..

It feels great being the self even after so many changes around!!

I wish life to be as beautiful as it is today and to be more beautiful for the girls who are not blessed enough with this bliss!!

I wish the souls to rest in peace whose life has brutally been ended up with this beautiful transition of life…

I wish, not a single girl should miss the bliss and not a single soul should fall prey of this.

Be happiness prevail EVERYWHERE!!

AMEN….!!